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Lunes, Setyembre 1, 2008

Qualities of a Great Partner

Wehe, nabasa ko to sa website ng True Love Waits. Gusto ko lang I-share

TLW, Franco, Amanda Grace and Derek are here to guide you and how can you understand unless you have a guide a man once said, and he proceeded to alow someone to guide him and his life changed forever! Enjoy reading.

1. Happy disposition

-Look for a happy, optimistic person. Find someone who has a sense of humor and can laugh at himself/herself. True happiness springs from a content heart. Beware of the person who is only happy when you are around. You’re going to get tired of being responsible for another person’s happiness. You could end up feeling guilty when the person slips into bouts of depression. True happiness is a part of a person’s character, regardless of the circumstances.

2.Thoughtfulness

-How does your date treat his parents and yours? Chances are you’ll get treated very much the same way. Does he see things that need to be done and offer to help? Or does he put his own needs first? Does he open doors for you and wait to seat you at the table? Manners are important – and they seldom get better after marriage.

3. Not easily angered

-Temper out bursts can be the symptom of internal hostility. This hostility is often repressed during courtship as a person is trying hard to be on his best behavior. Take seriously any outbursts you observe, and check with others who have known this person in different situations to see if they have noticed this trait. The way a woman treats her younger brother may be an indication of how she will treat her husband. Be leery of the person who has not learned to express his anger in words and instead merely harbors angry feelings in his heart. Going silent and withdrawing from a loved one because of anger is unhealthy and damaging to a relationship. Be sure you date a person long enough to observe how easily he or she becomes angry and how these feelings are expressed. Ask yourself, “Is this what I want to live with for a lifetime?”

4. Willing to solve problems

-It’s almost impossible to solve relationship problems by yourself. Marry someone who will be honest enough to admit being wrong, who doesn’t have a habit of blaming others.

5. Purity

-Purity is not just an old fashioned virtue. It’s just safer to date someone who hasn’t played around. Pero don’t hold it against a person for past sexual involvement. You cannot always judge a person’s true purity by virginity alone. Mind purity is equally important. Is your date pure in his thoughts and speech, as well as behaviour? What jokes does he tell? What music does he listen to? What movies does he watch? What books or magazines does she read? Are they pure or suggestive? Mind pollution can lead to disrespect of the opposite sex.

6. Truthful

-Too ofen couples play games when they are becoming acquainted. Playing games in a relationship is a form of dishonesty. Marriage isn’t a game. It’s a serious lifetime commitment. Search your own feelings and share honestly during your courtship. Be you!

7. Accepts Responsibility

-Here are some questions that might detect irresponsibility: Does she see things that need to be done and do them? Does he volunteer to help? Does she get to places on time? Does he make lame excuses to get out of responsibilities? Does she take her talents seriously and work to improve her skills? Does he take care of his personal possessions?… Think about it. Just how responsible is the person you are dating?

8. Good Sense of Self Worth

-Often in a dating relationship, someone with a poor self-esteem may glean a sense of value from you. They become dependent on you to make them feel good. If you don’t want to live a lifetime having to tiptoe around a person’s fragile ego or having to hold yourself back for fear of how your spouse will react, then be careful not to get emotionally involvedwith someone who has a low sense of self-worth.

9. Accepts you just the way you are.

-True Love is unconditional love. The important question to ask is, “Do I love her/his faults?” Only when you can truly love the total person, including all the points and bad habits, can you accept your mate for who he is and not secretly wish you could change him/her.

10. Willing to grow.

- Good marriage grow together. They encourage each other to maximize their knowledge, skills and potential. Make sure the person you date seriously is the kind of person who is open to learning and will make changes when changes need to be made.

11. Affectionate.

- The ability to express love through words and actions is vital for an intimate love relationship. Look for tender words, acts and touches that are given naturally and “appropriately” throughout the day, and not just in private.

12. Relationship with God.

- It’s very important for a marriage partner to have a personal relationship with God. Look for someone who is spiritually sensitive and willing to follow God’s law. A spirit-filled life is one filled with love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness and temperance. A person who exhibits these traits is certainly easier to live with than someone who doesn’t. What about your date/ if you’re interested in a realChristian, make sure his faith is part of his life 24 hours a day.

Ang cool diba…

 

Lunes, Agosto 25, 2008

Yes! I'm a Pastor's Wife!

Proverbs 31:10

            An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.

 

“No other wife is more special than a Pastor’s wife. I have never heard of any woman referred to as an engineer’s wife, a doctor’s wife, a lawyer’s wife, or a carpenter’s wife. Only the wife of a man called unto Himself for fulltime ministry is called a Pastor’s wife.”

            -Leah Marasigan-Darwin

 

            Siguro naiisip nyo na balak kong mag-asawa ng Pastor no? Hmmm… hindi naman sa ganun, gusto ko lang magkwento tungkol sa mom ko kasi siya yung Pastor's wife.

 

            I really admire my mom because she can do what she wants. Yun bang ang laki-laki ng mundo niya. Lagi niya ngang sinasabi samin ni Faye, “Wag nyong paliitin ang mundo nyo,” lalo na kapag ayokong lumabas ng bahay kasi wala ako sa mood gawa may monthly period ako. Haha.. Si mom talaga… Napaka-adventurous niya! Pareho kami. Gusto ko kasi yung mga bagay na may thrill and excitement. Sa sobrang pagiging adventurous ni mom ay muntik na siya malunod. Paano ba naman nung nagpunta sila sa Puerto Galera at nag-snorkeling ay tumapak sa buhangin para magpahinga. Kaso isa pala yung hukay. Hindi pa naman gaano marunong lumangoy, ayun tuloy. Buti na lang nailigtas siya. God is really great. Kung nagkataon ay wala akong mom ngayon. Si mom kasi masyadong malakas ang loob e.

 

            Pero alam nyo ba na kahit malakas ang loob ni mom, pagdating sa pag-aasawa ng Pastor ay wala siyang courage. Weird diba? Naikwento nga niya samin dati na may nanligaw sa kanya kaso hindi niya sinagot. Alam nyo ba kung bakit? Kasi Pastor yung guy. Napatawa na lang ako nung nakwento niya yun. May kinakatakutan din pala si mom.

 

            Sabi niya samin dati kaya daw ayaw niya mag-asawa ng Pastor kasi marami siyang kilala na Pastor’s wife at sobrang daming trials talaga ang nararanasan nila. Hmmm… napaisip nga ako dati na parang ayoko din mag-asawa ng Pastor. Haha… Scary… Natakot sa trials?

 

            Sa pag-iwas ni mom na makapag-asawa ng Pastor ay nakilala niya ang isang guy sa trabaho. Naging crush nga niya kasi gentleman, mabait, responsible at lahat na ng hinahanap niya sa isang guy maliban sa isang bagay… hindi pala siya Christian. (Love story pala ito ni mom, hehe). Syempre dahil dun ay deadma lang niya si guy pero naging mabuti silang magkaibigan. May girlfriend si guy nun. Dumating sa point na nag-break si guy at yung gf niya. Alam nyo ba kung bakit? Kasi nagkakagusto na daw si guy kay mom. Actually may isa pang guy na nanliligaw kay mom nun. Christian naman at talented pa(naks!). Teka, ano na nga bang sunod? Ah, nakakatuwa kasi si non-Christian guy ay nagpunta sa church ni mom para magpa-pogi points kay mom. Ganun pala paraan ng mga lalake. Nung una ay si mom ang sinasamba niya. Naging santa pa tuloy si mom. Kaso may nakapag-share sa kanya ng Gospel and He sincerely received Christ as his personal Lord and Savior. Simula nun ay nag-grow na si guy spiritually. Mom was very happy for him.

 

            Dahil hindi Pastor si guy ay sinagot niya. Haha, joke lang… Syempre mag-bloom yung friendship nila at ayun, naging sila. At hulaan nyo kung saan nauwi? Sa paghihiwalay… joke lang pala… Nauwi sa kasal. Haha… Akala ni mom ay nakaligtas na siya sa mga Pastor kaso dumating yung time na God is calling this guy to be a Pastor. Hala ka mom, destined ka talaga na maging Pastor’s wife. Iniwasan mo kasi ayan tuloy dun din ang bagsak mo. Kaya ako hindi ko iiwasan para hindi ako maging Pastor’s wife… Joke lang po Lord… hehe…

 

            At ayun nga, hindi rin naiwasan ni mom ang mga trials bilang asawa ng Pastor. Alam ko sobrang nahirapan din mag-adjust si mom gaya ko pero hindi niya pinapakita samin na weak siya. Ginagawa niya pa rin ang lahat para gampanan ang role niya bilang asawa at nanay. Never nag-give up si mom lalo na nung tinadtad na kami ng problems. Praise God at naka-survive naman kami. Hindi naman kasi magbibigay si God ng trials na hindin natin kaya.

 

            Dahil hindi ko alam ang mga nararamdaman ni mom as a Pastor’s wife ay binasa ko yung book na binasa niya dati. Yung ‘Yes! I’m a Pastor’s Wife’ by Leah Marasigan-Darwin. Grabe… Ang ganda nung book! Ang dami kong natutunan. Parang naranasan kong maging Pastor’s wife nung binabasa ko yung book na yun. Actually hindi lang naman talaga siya para sa mga asawa ng Pastor eh… Pwede siya sa lahat. Natutunan ko dun yung roles ng woman. Natutunan ko din dun na ang calling pala ng wives is to wait. Pero nag-aapply din siya sakin kasi wife din ako someday(kung will ni God). Hahaha…

 

            Pinagpala talaga ang mga asawa ng pastor kasi nga naman ay isang lalake na involved sa ministry ang napangasawa niya, isang lalake na pinili ni God para mag-lead. Alam nyo ba na malaki talaga ang role ng isang Pastor’s wife? According to Roy Rosedale, a staff member of Campus Crusade for Christ from the USA, “Nothing can destroy a man faster than a wife who is not on his team.” Wow, ganun pala talaga kabigat ang responsibility ni mom. Hmmm….

 

            After kong mabasa yung libro ay ayoko ng maging asawa ng isang Pastor. Haha, joke lang… Okay na sakin. Kung will ba ni God, why not. Kasi kung mag-aasawa naman ako ay gusto ko rin talaga ay involved sa ministry. Parang si ano… Hmmm… si daddy… Haha…Wehe…

 

            Dahil nabasa ko na yung book ay pwede ko na rin i-check ang relationship ni mom and dad kasi may advices din dun para sa masayang pagsasama ng mag-asawa. Ang cool talaga.

 

            Hindi ko man alam kung ano ang plan sakin ni God, basta alam ko na irereveal niya ang lahat ng bagay sa takdang panahon… Yey… I will continue to trust Him…

 

Habakkuk 2:3

            For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it lingers, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay. 

 

            Nakaka-excite talaga ang plans ni God…

Lunes, Agosto 18, 2008

My Missing Diary… 17Aug08

Woah! What a small world talaga… Yung ex-gf pala nung guy na naging first “false” love(infatuation) ko ay sister ng isa kong friend… hindi talaga ako maka get over sa napag-alaman ko. Father, astig naman yun… Nakakatuwa lang isipin na ganun kaliit ang mundo. Hehe.. Grabe…

 

            Natatandaan ko talaga na may sinulat ako dati sa diary ko nung araw na makita ko silang magkasama nung girl. Sobrang asikaso ni false love si girl. Mas lalo ko tuloy inadmire si guy. Haha… Mabait naman daw si girl kaya sa tingin ko ay okay naman sila ni guy as a couple. Dun ko inakala na in love talaga ako kay guy kasi wala naman akong naramdaman na jealousy sa kanilang dalawa. Oo nga pala, nung panahong iyon ay hindi ko pa kakilala si friend na kapatid ni ex-gf ng first false love ko. Ang gulo na ng kwento ko. Basta ayun nga, mas nauna ko pang ma-meet si girl kesa kay friend. Sinabi ko yata sa sarili ko na kapag masaya si guy ay happy na rin ako for them. Toinks, paka-martyr pa daw ako. Huhu… Pero okay lang talaga sakin yun.

 

            Tapos ayun, naisipan kong hanapin sa diary ko kung nasaan yung part na na-meet ko si girl. Hanap talaga ako ng hanap kasi sobrang na-curiuos talaga ako kung ano yung sinulat ko dun about kay girl. Naalala ko na may nawawala nga pala akong diary… syempre pinag-pray ko talaga na wag sana dun nakasulat yung tungkol kay girl kaso mukhang ayaw ng ipaalala sakin ni God yung mga ganung bagay e. Kahit yung ibang nakasulat dun hindi ko na rin maalala. Ang tanda ko lang puro tungkol sa love life ko yun. Yung pagiging immature ko sa pag-ibig ay dun nakasulat. Sobrang nanghihinayang pa rin talaga ako dun sa diary ko na yun kasi maraming kilig moments dun e. haha… Sa tingin ko ayaw ng ipaalala sakin ni God yung mga bagay na yun kasi gusto niya na mag-focus ako sa present. Past is past and I have to go on with my life lalo na sa aking love life. Hindi na mahalaga kung anuman ang nakasulat dun sa diary ko na yun. Ang mahalaga ay marami akong natutuhan sa aking past experiences lalo na ngayong fourth year college na ako.

 

            I am really trying to move on, but I know that only God can help me. My heart is broken, but little by little, God is fixing it. I am proud that I have learned many things in the past that made me a stronger Christian especially when it comes to my love life. I became more careful lalong-lalo na kapag nagsisimula na akong matuwa at humanga sa isang guy. Sobrang sinasabi ko talaga sa sarili ko, “Mizpah Grace Viyar Ochoa, hindi ka pa handang ma-inlove… guard your heart because the heart is very deceitful!” Effective talaga yun. Ang galing ni God kasi natutuhan ko talagang ma-control ang aking emotions. Mali talaga yung sinasabi nilang hindi kayang pigilin ang emotions. Kaya nga ang heart ay inilagay sa part na mas mababa sa  brain kasi kelangan ng isip kapag nagsimula ng maka-feel ng something si heart (sabi yan ng aking mom).

 

            Haha, kaya ako matinding pag-guard na sa aking heart ang ginagawa ko dahil gusto kong ma-please si God lalo na pagdating sa aking love life. Kahit na sinasabi ni heart na gusto ko si someone, naku thank you na lang hearty heart. Hindi pa ako ready sa ganyan. Kelangan yan ng matinding prayers dahil hindi basta-basta ang love life. Kaya ngayon, I’m enjoying my life as a single. Okay lang rin naman kung will ni God na hindi ako magkaasawa kasi may balak talaga akong maging missionary eh. Pero I think God is still giving me the desire na magkaroon ng asawa. Hindi galing sa sarili ko yung desire na yun kundi kay God (natutunan ko ito kay Ate Bang. Hehe). Kaya hindi ako pwedeng maging celibate habang may desire pa akong magpakasal.

 

            Kakalimutan ko na si missing diary. Si God na ang bahala kung nasaan man yung diary ko na yun. Sana lang walang nakakuhang iba kasi nakakahiya ang pagiging immature ko dati. Hahaha..

Linggo, Agosto 17, 2008

True or False? 13Aug08 7:25am

Have you been in love? Pagdating sa love, marami tayong misconceptions. Akala natin kapag bumilis na yung heart beat natin whenever we see our special someone ay love na yun. O kaya naman kapag lagi mo siyang iniisip akala mo love na yun. Hmmm… Gusto ko tuloy i-categorize ang love. Ang isa ay TRUE LOVE ang isa naman ay yung FALSE LOVE. Kitang-kita naman ang kaibahan diba? “False” love ay yung tinatawag nating infatuation or being blindly in love. Blind? Is love really blind? Ofcourse not! Sabi nila kapag in love ka daw hindi mo nakikita yung flaws ng mahal mo. Joke ba yun? Iba siya sa true love kasi kapag true love ay nakikita mo ang flaws ng mahal mo pero tanggap mo yung mga yun. Eh teka, ano nga ba ang definition ng true love? Wala naman siyang concrete definition(wala talaga akong mahanap e) pero sa Bible sinabi ang characteristics ng true love.

 

I Corinthians 13:4-8

            Love…

…is PATIENT

…isKIND

…DOES NOT ENVY

…DOES NOT BOAST

…is NOT PROUD

…is NOT RUDE

…is NOT SELF-SEEKING

…is NOT EASILY ANGERED

…keeps NO RECORDS OF WRONGS

…DOES NOT DELIGHT IN EVIL

…REJOICES WITH THE TRUTH

…always PROTECTS

…always TRUSTS

…always HOPES

…always PERSEVERES

…NEVER FAILS…

 

            Yun ang true love! True love is more than a beautiful feeling… it’s a commitment. Naisip ko yung until death do us part na vow kapag kinakasal. Ganun ang true love, yung hindi naka-base lang sa emotions. Kapag kasi sa emotion lang naka-base, hindi magtatagal yun kasi ang ating emotions ay temporary lang talaga. Minsan nga high na high ang feelings tapos minsan naman parang wala lang. Para sa akin, love is a choice. Ginusto mo na mag-commit sa taong yun so dapat panindigan mo yan. Kaya it is not necessary na mahal mo na agad yung person kapag under  kayo sa process ng courtship kasi love takes time. You need to know the person first before you can tell that you love him/her. Napakabigat pati ng word na LOVE.

 

            Commitment should be for a lifetime kung true love nga talaga yang nafi-feel mo. Hindi yan pang isang araw lang o kaya naman one year, five years, or ten years… For a lifetime nga eh…

 

            True love at first sight is really impossible… “false” love at first sight pwede pa.

            May isa pa rin akong naiisip tungkol sa true love. Isa lang pala ang magiging true love ko. Hehe.. I have been in love several times, but God showed me na isa lang talaga ang magiging TRUE LOVE ko. Since, nakaranas na ko ng ilang heartbreaks, pinag-aralan ko ang mga bagay-bagay tungkol sa love pero yung hindi worldly perspective about love kundi yung mga sinasabi ni God.

 

            “Love never fails…” Dito pa lang it’s already obvious na yung taong papakasalan ko lang ang magiging true love ko. Kaya ngayon, hinihintay ko pa lang yung guy na papakasalan ko. Ang tagal nga e! Father nasaan na siya? Hahaha, joke lang po. Hmmm… I know that God is preparing him for me. Naks, Father… Isa lang talaga ang hihilingin ko Sayo na gusto ko sa isang guy pero satin na lang yun. Hahaha… Actually I am praying na wag muna siyang dumating… Kung sino man siya. Hindi pa kasi ako ready. Gusto ko munang mag-focus sa relationship naming ni God. Tsaka na ang love life ko kapag sinabi ni God na ready na ko. Yey!

 

            TRUE LOVE NOT JUST WAITS… IT PLANS…(parang kinontra ko yung TLW ah) Pero syempre mahalaga pa rin ang waiting. Kasi process yun ng pag-momold satin ni God.

 

            Kayo ba, anong status nyo ngayon? Are you in love? What kind of love? TRUE or FALSE?